Three mistakes you can make when choosing a career.
Sometimes common sense is not so common, and the process of choosing a career it is not common at all, as a matter of fact, 70% of Americans claim they do not feel fulfilled in their careers.
Here is what a Time article has to say about the subject:
“According to a Gallop survey on U.S. engagement at work, nearly 70% of Americans are either disengaged from work or actively disengaged. What this means is that 7 out of 10 people are more than likely not in the right job.” (http://time.com/4429418/are-you-at-right-job/)
In another article on Forbes:
“According to Gallup organization, only 13% of people are actively engaged in their jobs.” (https://www.forbes.com/sites/margiewarrell/2014/07/16/unhappy-at-work-either-change-what-you-do-or-change-how-you-do-it/#42a67e6443a2)
So what is leading to the disconnect? Well in my career coaching practice I see three distinct mistakes that people make when choosing, or better yet, falling into a career.
1 – Following the advice of family and friends
The thinking here follows a distinct pattern, uncle Bob is an engineer, he makes a lot of money and is highly respected, so you should be an engineer also. Seeing someone else successful and wanting to emulate them is very common, but it is a big mistake.
There are several categories of people who get very emotional when they discover (through coaching) why they are not happy in their career, teen girls (I have no idea whey they cry,) and men in their 40’s and 50’s, I understand why they get emotional, it is because much of their life has passed them by and they realize there is nothing they can do to get the time back. They are stuck with bills and changing career seems like an impossible task.
No one can know enough to determine what someone else should do for a career, not even yourself. The human brain cannot hold enough information to be able to do decide what job you should do based on your current skill set. The bottom line is you need a different decision-making paradigm when you are considering issues that involve the future. In other words, if your decision is going to impact you next year, or even further in the future, you need to use what I call “The Should I Paradigm.” You can download my eBook HERE.
2 – Letting circumstances dictate your future
Maybe your family business is where you are working, maybe you are expected to do the same thing other members of your family do. Sometimes it only seems natural to pursue a career in the military, or in uncle Joe’s company. That does not mean it is a good idea.
Often your part-time job can turn into full-time employment. Before you know it you are managing and making a little more money and decide to buy a house, get married, have kids and take out a second on the house to buy the toys you have always dreamed of. Then you wake up one day realizing you made a big mistake. It is very difficult to change careers at that point. You need to figure out how to make better choices and how to do a career transition. You can learn how to do a transition by downloading my eBook on the subject HERE.
3 – Taking the path of least resistance
You are most likely experiencing this right now. Most of us, I included, have fallen victim to this mistake. The reason we fall for it is that most of us tend to be reactionary, we take whatever comes our way. Sometimes we just follow leads we have at our disposal and take what we can get because we need a job.
So why is it a mistake? Because it is not based upon what you would naturally do well, what you will have a natural passion for and what your life purpose really is. Of course, you can find out what your passion is, what your purpose and potential are, you just purchase Compass and or get a consult with me. You can check out your options HERE.
I am 65 years old, I have made these same mistakes, not once, but several times over the last 45 years. I know it seems like a lot of work, but do you really want to just tuff it out and make it to retirement. Let me tell you what happens then!
When you are 65 and looking back at your life and you realize that most of your waking hours have been spent doing something other than what you are well designed for, you are going to regret not taking action now, I know I do, I regret it often. I was 45 before I figured it out.
Don’t be like me, don’t make these three mistakes, take action and live a life you will be proud of when you come to the end of your career, don’t take your true genius to the grave, grace the world with your very best, you owe it to yourself, you owe it to your family and you owe it to your community.